The Herefordshire Family Celebrant

Written by Deborah Meddins.

The moment that you lost them,

Will be forever stamped upon your heart,

It is that unique moment of reality,

That has torn your world apart.

When we lose those we love the most,

The pain is hard to bear,

The problem with grief, is though, my sweet,

It really doesn’t care.

The truest thing about grief,

Is it will become part of you,

It is not something you can get over,

And not something you can get through.

There are no rules, there is no time,

There is never now a day that all is fine.

You will now share a piece of your heart,

With the mistress we call grief,

When you allow her to consume all of you,

You will never get relief.

She will walk alongside you, slowly churning that grief to love,

Of all the wonderful memories and signs from up above.

Learn to keep your heart open to the sadness and the pain

And accept as part of life, it will no longer be the same,

I promise you, my darling, the grief will one day subside

Leaving room for you to remember and filling your heart with pride.

If we carry a piece of them always in our heart,

Then the truth is they never really leave us,

We just have to live apart.

If there is one gift I could give you,

It’s a simple word called hope,

No matter how much the grief takes hold,

You have all you need to cope.

And hope for better days to come,

When the light starts to shine once more,

A new chapter will begin,

A different open door.

So, breathe it in, you’ve got this,

Grief is nothing new,

And stop trying to find the answers

Cos this time, grief chose you.

They say that grief is the price of love,

And the pain you carry is the cost,

You made the choice to love this hard,

That love can never be lost.

And when the noise has quietened,

And the visitors have gone away,

Don’t allow that silence,

To make you think it’s a bad day.

Silence can be golden,

Take the time to breathe it in,

Talk to them as you always did,

And let your day begin.

I am sorry that it feels so heavy right now,

One day, I pray it will ease,

A visit from a robin,

Or their name on a gentle breeze.

Speak of them often, keep them on your mind,

Remember how they made you laugh,

Remember how they were kind.

Raise a glass, and cheers to them,

At their Afterglow,

And listen to all the stories,

Some of which you would never know.

Understand that those around you,

Don’t always know what to say,

So if they say nothing but nod their head,

That’s them in their own way.

I know it feels so difficult now,

And the days ahead are tough,

You may not be able to face the day,

Because you’ve really had enough.

Go gentle on yourself

The wound you have is deep

Sometimes, you can only heal

With quiet, kindness, and sleep.

I hope the day she leaves you,

You feel peace from up above,

That’s when you know the grief has subsided,

and left you with only love.